Calm in the Chaos: Coping with Holiday Stress

Written by Dr. Carri Lager, Licensed Psychologist
Photography by Carri Lager

The holidays in Jupiter bring the glow of neighborhood lights, festive gatherings near the waterfront, and that lovely coastal breeze. On the other hand, the season of joy can also come with an undercurrent of stress. Between family expectations, financial pressures, and a calendar full of commitments, the “most wonderful time of the year” can sometimes feel overwhelming.

If you are feeling overcome with pressure this holiday season, you're not alone! As a psychologist, I often remind my clients that holiday stress is a natural response to increased demands on your time and energy. The key is learning to manage those pressures with intention and care. Here are tips for overcoming the chaos:

1. Let Go of Perfection
We all want our holidays to be special, but perfection is an impossible goal. Connection with loved ones matters far more than the details. When something does not go as planned, take a breath and look for the humor in the moment. The best memories are rarely flawless.

2. Protect Your Time and Energy
The holiday season brings countlessinvitations and obligations, but it is okay to say no! Setting boundaries is not selfish; it is self-preservation. Choose events that truly bring you joy and allow yourself to skip others. An evening walk enjoying your neighborhood lights, can be just as meaningful as a packed social calendar.

3. Keep Spending in Perspective
Giving gifts can be joyful, but it can also create financial strain. Set a budget that feels comfortable and try sticking to it. Generosity is about intention, not expense. Baking cookies, writing a heartfelt card, or sharing an experience can carry more emotional weight than expensive presents.

4. Maintain Grounding Routines
Try to keep up with the habits that support your mental health: sleep, exercise, and balanced nutrition. Even small acts of self-care – a few deep breaths before guests arrive, a yoga session at the lighthouse, or simply sitting quietly by the ocean can help restore calm and balance.

5. Focus on Meaning, Not Momentum
It is easy to get swept up in the rush of holiday chaos, but slowing down allows you to reconnect with the heart of the season. Reflect on what matters most to you and let those values guide your choices. When you approach the holidays with intention, even simple moments can feel deeply fulfilling.

Peace during the holidays is not about perfect plans or gifts, it is about presence. By caring for your emotional well-being and setting gentle boundaries, you can create a season that feels balanced and joyful. So, this year, as the lights twinkle over Jupiter and the breeze drifts in from the ocean, take a deep breath and enjoy calm moments of joy.